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Masturbation is commonly understood as the act of touching your genitals for sexual pleasure. However, masturbation isn\u2019t actually limited to just genitals \u2014 there are multiple erogenous zones on the body that can be stimulated, including the nipples, neck, thighs, bum, and more. Sometimes masturbation includes\u00a0<\/span>sex toys<\/span><\/a>, other times people use their hands alone.<\/span><\/p>\n

VUSH\u2019s sexpert, Steph, has written a beginner\u2019s guide to masturbation to break down why people masturbate, what holds them back, and how to actually get started.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Why do people masturbate?<\/b><\/h2>\n

1. Alone time feels good<\/b><\/h3>\n

Generally, people masturbate because it feels good. Many people find that masturbation is the easiest way for them to orgasm (a wandering mind or concerns about whether your partner is enjoying themselves can sometimes get in the way of your own pleasure when you\u2019re having sex with someone else). You don\u2019t need a partner to have sex \u2014 it\u2019s available to you at any appropriate time via masturbation!<\/p>\n

2. Benefits of masturbation<\/b><\/h3>\n

There are many, many, many,\u00a0<\/span>health benefits of masturbation<\/span><\/a>. These include physiological benefits like better quality sleep and improved physical health. Masturbation also releases feel good chemicals in the brain, making you happier, less stressed and more productive. There are social benefits of masturbation too, such as connecting to self and learning about your body so you can pass on knowledge to partners to improve your shared sex life.<\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n

3. Exploring your body<\/b><\/h3>\n

Masturbation is a great way to explore your body. How are you going to know what you want to do with a sexual partner if you haven\u2019t worked out what you like yourself? If you\u2019re feeling sexual energy in your body but not yet ready to share that with someone else, masturbation is a great place to start. It is completely natural for humans (and animals) to touch themselves and explore sexual pleasure.<\/p>\n

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Why don\u2019t people masturbate?<\/b><\/h2>\n

1. Lack of time<\/b><\/h3>\n

Some people feel guilty taking time to prioritise their own pleasure and may consider masturbation selfish. They might not have time and feel stressed out about their never ending to-do list. The truth is, masturbation is actually a productive use of time due to the many benefits it can provide!<\/p>\n

2. Considered unnecessary<\/b><\/h3>\n

Since we\u2019re not taught about masturbation in school (and only some of us have parents that talk about sex in a consistent, helpful way), a lot of people don\u2019t actually know about the benefits of masturbation. They might not feel the need to masturbate because they haven\u2019t tried it yet to work out how great it is!<\/p>\n

3. Cultural messaging<\/b><\/h3>\n

While some just weren\u2019t taught about masturbation, others were told that masturbation is an unhealthy or bad thing to do. Exposure to social, cultural or religious messages that tell people not to masturbate often results in negative feelings about masturbation and an unwillingness to try it.<\/p>\n

4. Unsure how to masturbate<\/b><\/h3>\n

Some people are reluctant to start masturbating because they don\u2019t actually know how to do it! This is more common for people with vulvas since there is a harmful narrative that vulva owners are hard to please and orgasms are nearly impossible to achieve. Don\u2019t worry, that\u2019s not true \u2014 all the best things take time and patience.<\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n

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What are common myths about masturbation?<\/b><\/h2>\n

Unfortunately, there are a lot of harmful stories out there about masturbation. Luckily, many parts of the world are becoming increasingly sex positive. VUSH is here to debunk a few common myths about masturbation:<\/p>\n

1. Negative effect on kidneys<\/b><\/h3>\n

There is an ancient Chinese belief that men with kidney deficiencies also have poor sexual functioning. While it is true that poor kidney functioning and other anatomical health conditions can impact sexuality, this has nothing to do with masturbation and certainly is not caused by it.<\/p>\n

2. Decreased sperm count<\/b><\/h3>\n

Regular masturbation and ejaculation will not negatively impact fertility or sperm count. The body constantly produces sperm cells and will never run out (no matter how many times a day you get off). Age and other health factors can affect sperm count, but masturbation does not.<\/p>\n

3. Lower libido<\/b><\/h3>\n

Masturbation does not lower your libido \u2014 in fact, if you\u2019re masturbating regularly, that probably means you have a healthy libido and plenty of sexual desire! Libido actually isn\u2019t based on how much you masturbate or have sex, it relates to how much you<\/span>want<\/span><\/i> sex and your motivation for sex.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Vision loss<\/b><\/h3>\n

A famous 1760 pamphlet about masturbation called \u2018Onania\u2019 highlighted a range of so-called consequences of masturbation. The possibility of going blind was one of them. It\u2019s now 2022 and we know that there is absolutely zero chance you will go blind after masturbating.<\/p>\n

5. Hairy palms<\/b><\/h3>\n

Masturbation was historically considered lazy, and there is a French expression about laziness, \u201cavoir du poil dans la main\u201d, which translates to \u201chaving hairy palms\u201d. Somewhere along the lines, these three concepts got tangled and perpetuated the myth that masturbation will make your palms hairy. This is simply not true (or possible)!<\/p>\n

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How to masturbate<\/b><\/h2>\n

There are many different ways to masturbate \u2014 no two people will do it in exactly the same way. The key is to listen to what your body is craving and where you want to be touched.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s not just about the technique you use to touch yourself, it\u2019s also about what you do before and after masturbation. VUSH has developed a 5 step guide for people who are just starting out with self pleasure and wanting to find the best way to masturbate:<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Set the mood & turn yourself on<\/b><\/h3>\n

Create a sensual space that makes you feel safe and helps you get in the mood. Put on some sexy tunes, light a candle and maybe remove the dirty clothes from your bedroom floor. If you can, lock the door so you\u2019re not worried about being interrupted. Turn yourself on and wake up your body by using your hands to feel your way around your entire body. You might want to try some audio, visual or written erotica to get this process going.<\/p>\n

2. Add lube<\/b><\/h3>\n

Even if you\u2019re not using a sex toy, lube will make masturbation easier and more comfortable for you.\u00a0<\/span>Feelin\u2019 Myself Intimate Gel<\/span><\/a> is our best lube recommendation \u2014 water-based lube is perfect because it\u2019s gentle and won\u2019t stain your clothes or sheets. Plus, applying the lube to your body in a sensual way can be great foreplay.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Play & explore<\/b><\/h3>\n

This is where the fun really starts. Experiment with touching yourself in different areas with various pressures, intensities, and motions. Hot tip: Vulvas tend to enjoy rubbing, circling or tapping motions on the clitoris, gyrating or grinding against the vulva, and gentle pressure around the vaginal opening and internally against the vaginal walls. Penises generally prefer stroking or circling of the penis around the tip, shaft and frenulum, and sometimes gentle cradling or squeezing of the testes.<\/p>\n

4. Add a vibrator<\/b><\/h3>\n

Sex toys offer sensations that aren\u2019t necessarily available through hands alone. There\u2019s no shame in using a\u00a0<\/span>vibrator<\/span><\/a> or other sex toy to your self pleasure practice \u2014 this is completely normal and even encouraged by many people in the health field. Ease into sex toy use by testing your toy on your hand first, starting on the lowest setting, and using lube to make things easier. A\u00a0<\/span>wand vibrator<\/span><\/a>,\u00a0<\/span>bullet vibrator<\/span><\/a>, or\u00a0<\/span>clitoral suction vibrator<\/span><\/a> is a good place to start.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Orgasm (optional)<\/b><\/h3>\n

Eventually, you may feel like you\u2019re going to orgasm. If you\u2019re not sure what orgasm is like, it can feel like a genital sneeze or a build of wonderful tingly sensations with a pleasurable release. Focusing on your breath, using audible sounds, and exploring natural movement can help orgasm happen or feel stronger. Don\u2019t worry if you don\u2019t get to the point of orgasm \u2014 as long as you feel good in your body, connect to yourself and reap some benefits, you are masturbating correctly.\u00a0<\/p>\n

6. Aftercare<\/b><\/h3>\n

After masturbation, you may be experiencing a range of feelings \u2014 relaxation and relief, happiness and bliss, or sometimes even guilt or shame. It\u2019s important to take care of yourself, your emotions, and your body after masturbating. Wipe or rinse yourself clean of any lubes or bodily fluids. Wash, charge and store away any sex toys you used.<\/p>\n

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Read more on stimulation:<\/b><\/h2>\n

To learn more about masturbation and erogenous zones, read our articles on\u00a0<\/span>the clitoris<\/span><\/a> and\u00a0<\/span>the vulva<\/span><\/a>. We promise you\u2019ll learn something new about your body!<\/span><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re ready to try incorporating a\u00a0<\/span>sex toy<\/span><\/a> into your self love practice, read our\u00a0<\/span>guide for choosing and using your first sex toy<\/span><\/a>. On the\u00a0<\/span>VUSH Stimulation blog<\/span><\/a>, we have guides for using a\u00a0<\/span>bullet vibrator<\/span><\/a> and a\u00a0<\/span>rabbit vibrator<\/span><\/a>. We even have a\u00a0<\/span>guide to using toys with a partner<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

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